Chapter 1: The Nature of Inquiry

Why do unfortunate events occur? The question “why” often arises from our innate desire to find meaning and understand the causes behind events. By asking “why,” we seek to uncover the reasons or motivations behind occurrences, a pursuit that reflects our human nature.

Children, driven by curiosity, frequently ask “why” as they explore the world around them. As adults, we often grapple with profound questions like “Why are we here?” However, I believe that we can address such existential inquiries more effectively by reframing them.

“What is our purpose here?”

I’ll delve into this question shortly.

The distinction between “what” and “why” lies in the type of information each question seeks. While “why” seeks explanations or justifications, “what” directs attention towards specific actions and events. Some inquiries about “why” may remain unanswered due to the limitations of our human consciousness.

By focusing on “what,” we can examine the tangible aspects of situations, enabling us to address them on a practical level. On the other hand, seeking “metaphysical” or “spiritual” explanations often yields answers that are personal and subjective rather than universal.

Adults typically resort to asking “why” when faced with negative situations, pondering what leads to unfortunate events. Recently, I found myself questioning Source (or God), “Why do those we care for fall ill?” The response was unexpected:

“There is no why.”

This revelation prompted deep reflection. I began to question my motivations behind asking “why.” My initial thought was that I struggled to comprehend why a seemingly healthy loved one became unwell and felt that it was unjust.

Yet, Source guided me toward more constructive inquiries: “What occurred?” and “What actions can I take to improve the situation?”

For instance, when a cherished pet fell ill unexpectedly, I questioned God, “Why do bad things happen?” Again, the answer was clear:

“There is no why.”

This led me to contemplate the essence of existence and the nature of events. I believe that Source or God represents an infinite intelligence that manifests parts of itself in physical form for the sake of experience. This understanding provides insight into why events unfold as they do.

To address the question, “What is our purpose?” I would assert, “To experience life.”

The labels of good and bad are simply our interpretations of events based on their significance and impact on us. Our loved ones do not fall ill due to a vengeful deity or as a result of past misdeeds. Instead, illnesses often stem from physical or environmental factors, which may also be linked to emotional or spiritual aspects.

Our task is to uncover the reasons behind someone’s illness by asking “what happened” rather than speculating about the esoteric “why.” This approach allows us to concentrate on what we can influence.

When facing health challenges—whether personal or among loved ones—we can explore the physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual contributors to their condition. Rather than dwelling on the age-old question of “why do bad things happen?” I believe that the concept of fate is less relevant than learning from our experiences.

People often wonder, “Why do good things happen to bad people?” or “Why do I face so many challenges?” A more constructive inquiry would be, “What leads to both good and bad experiences in our lives?”

At a higher level, I see it as a matter of consciousness experiencing the dynamics of our relationships, some perceived as positive and others as negative.

Humans possess intelligence and vast reservoirs of knowledge. History shows that those who skillfully manipulate situations for power and resources have often dominated. However, it is essential to recognize that those who have been oppressed have, in part, allowed this to occur.

Ultimately, we are manifestations of consciousness from Source, co-creating both positive and negative experiences through our interactions.

Chapter 2: The Value of “What” Over “Why”

In the video, "The Art of Asking the Right Questions," experts discuss the significance of formulating the right inquiries to gain deeper insights and foster understanding in various aspects of life.

Asking “why” and “what” are interconnected. When faced with challenges in personal or professional life, it is natural to question “why.”

However, while “why” seeks explanations, “what” directs attention to actionable insights. The problem with “why” is that it can often lead to self-blame or negative emotions, grounded in personal beliefs.

Research by Tasha Eurich suggests that while “why” questions tend to highlight our limitations, “what” inquiries help reveal our potential. “Why” questions can evoke negative feelings, whereas “what” questions nurture curiosity and exploration.

Consider asking yourself:

• What am I currently feeling?
• What actions can I take to care for myself and those I love?
• What is working well in my business?
• What implications arise from current events?
• What assistance do I need today?
• What should I reconsider?
• What can I communicate to achieve my goals?
• What steps can I take right now for self-care?

By focusing on these types of questions, we can take proactive steps instead of getting caught up in the stress of “why” things are going wrong.

While “why” provides context for events, it is also crucial to concentrate on “what transpired” and “what can be done” to achieve desired outcomes. Thus, the full inquiry becomes, “Why did this happen and what actions can I take?”