Section 1.1: Libraries: A Hub for All Ages

One striking observation was the age diversity in local libraries, where many seniors frequented to read or learn new things. It seems that, in the U.S., the elderly have a different approach to retirement. A friend of mine, at 69, was excited to share that he had accepted a teaching position in physics at a private high school—an impressive feat compared to the typical retirement age in China, where many stop working around 60.

Section 1.2: The Cost of Fresh Produce

Another surprising discovery was the steep prices of vegetables compared to meat, often costing $2 to $3 each. Some items, like mushrooms, could be as high as $8 a pound. In contrast, I could purchase eight pounds of vegetables in China for around $8. However, organic foods here tend to be less expensive, such as wild salmon from Costco, priced at just $9.99 per pound.

Section 2.1: Divorce Trends Among Seniors

I was astonished to learn that many friends in their 60s opted for divorce—a stark contrast to China, where the highest divorce rates are among younger couples. In Chinese culture, older individuals often remain together for family cohesion and to support their grandchildren. This reflects a deep-rooted value placed on familial relationships and stability.

Section 2.2: The Shift Towards Independent Living

In Los Angeles, it's common for seniors to choose independence over cohabitation with their children. I met professors who sold their homes in their 80s to move into retirement communities. Conversely, many Chinese elders prefer the warmth of a multigenerational household, enjoying the company of family.

Section 2.3: Understanding Personal Space

Cultural differences also became apparent regarding personal space. In the U.S., maintaining a comfortable distance is crucial; for instance, while shopping at Costco, an elderly gentleman insisted on his space when I was merely a meter away. This contrasts sharply with the more crowded spaces in China, where close proximity is the norm.

Section 2.4: Safety Perceptions

Another surprising aspect was the perception of safety. In Los Angeles, the concept of a completely safe city is a myth. A friend advised me that every neighborhood has its risks, prompting a more cautious approach to going out. In China, we generally feel secure enough to venture out late at night without worry.

Section 2.5: The Spirit of YOLO

Finally, I was introduced to the “YOLO” (You Only Live Once) mindset by a 25-year-old American friend. He remarked on how his Chinese wife often prioritizes hard work and delayed gratification over enjoying life. This philosophy resonates with me, reminding us to savor every moment and treat life as a valuable experience rather than solely focusing on outcomes.

In reflecting on my time in Los Angeles, I learned the importance of engaging fully with each day, embracing life’s fleeting nature, and cherishing the experiences that shape who we are.