Understanding Your Capacity for Humanity: A Reflective Guide
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Chapter 1: The Essence of Humanity
The call to "heal the world and make it a better place" may resonate with many, thanks to the iconic King of Pop. However, it appears that some individuals have strayed further from the essence of being humane, contributing to a decline in our collective humanity.
Reflecting on my grandmother's wise words, she often said that the last obligation I have to myself is to cultivate my humanity. With a touch of humor, she advised, “To truly gauge your goodness, ask your closest friends to share your shortcomings.” This approach provides a sobering reality check, revealing that one might be merely embodying the physical aspects of humanity without actively practicing it.
You may perceive yourself as a kind and ideal person, but if given the chance to introspect deeply, you might discover unsettling truths about your actions.
As I navigate life, I strive to leave a legacy of humanity.
Growing Up: The Influence of Society
Most children are inherently good. Think back to your childhood—perhaps you shared toys with friends or offered hugs freely. However, once you enter the societal sphere, your innate compassion can begin to wane. You may find yourself reluctant to share your lunch at school or laughing at someone’s appearance.
Society significantly impacts our humanity, often leading us to adopt a more self-serving mindset. Yet, upon reaching adulthood, we have the opportunity to correct these behaviors. Unfortunately, many still fail to make that conscious effort.
How to Assess Your Humanity
A recent viral incident involving Manchester City footballers highlighted varying degrees of humanity among individuals. One player stood out for his more compassionate behavior.
If you aspire to contribute positively to the world, begin with self-reflection. Here are some questions to help you assess your level of humanity:
Do you evaluate love before giving it?
Consider if you only engage with friends after receiving their attention first. This behavior can indicate a lack of genuine compassion.
Do you only assist when prompted?
Have you ever hesitated to help someone in need simply because they hadn’t explicitly asked for it? This tendency reflects a concerning lack of empathy.
Do you impose your views on others?
Know-it-alls can be frustrating. If you regularly insist on your opinions being the only valid ones, it may indicate a deficiency in understanding differing perspectives.
Do you overlook the treatment of animals and nature?
Disregarding the well-being of animals or plants can reflect a broader insensitivity. Every creature deserves kindness and respect.
Do you engage in any form of shaming?
Body shaming and other forms of discrimination are detrimental. If you’ve ever criticized someone’s appearance or choices, it may signal a lack of acceptance.
Do you only help when there’s a benefit for you?
If your answer to this is a firm "no," it might suggest a troubling absence of humanity in your actions.
Do you hold onto guilt for past mistakes?
Recognizing and forgiving yourself for errors is essential for personal growth. If you can relate to several of these questions, it may be time to reflect and improve.
Do you practice humanity?
Thank you for engaging with my thoughts today. I appreciate your time and look forward to sharing more insights soon.
In the video "How to know if you're being selfish (and whether or not that's bad)," Mark Hopwood explores the nuances of selfishness and its implications on our humanity.
Another insightful video, "You'd Be Surprised How Bad of a Person You Are," presents thought experiments that challenge our self-perception and encourage deeper self-reflection.
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