You Are Not an Imposter: Embracing Your True Potential
Written on
Chapter 1: The Challenge of Performance Reviews
Xavier was filled with anxiety as he awaited his turn for the performance review. His eyes darted around, his fingers fidgeted, and his legs trembled with unease. The thought of the end-of-year evaluations was almost unbearable.
“Why am I so nervous? I haven’t done anything wrong!” he muttered to himself, trying to calm down.
He recalled the previous review, which had gone smoothly. Surely, this one would be no different, right? After two years at the company, Xavier genuinely enjoyed his work. He felt he had made a meaningful contribution and got along with most colleagues, despite knowing it was impossible to please everyone. Nevertheless, the stress of annual evaluations loomed large.
“Hey Pete, how did it go?” he asked a fellow colleague who had just finished.
“Pretty average, to be honest. I really thought I’d get that bonus I wanted, but no luck,” Peter replied with a sigh.
“Sorry to hear that, let’s collaborate next quarter and figure out a plan to help you secure it,” Xavier suggested optimistically.
“Ready for your turn, Xavier?” A voice interrupted his thoughts.
“Hey Mark, how’s it going?” Xavier greeted the head of the department.
Mark was conducting the reviews in place of Xavier’s usual manager, Lin, who was unwell.
“I’m good, mate. Let’s head to my office to get started,” Mark said, leading Xavier into a room that felt like a sophisticated retreat, with the scent of leather and a hint of cologne filling the air.
“Pick your poison, you’re my last review of the day,” Mark offered, pouring himself a drink.
Xavier chuckled, feeling a mix of excitement and nervousness. “I’m fine with anything,” he replied.
“Blue on the rocks it is then. Cheers!” Mark clinked glasses with him.
“So, how are you finding your time here? You’re approaching your second year, and I’ve heard great things about you,” Mark smiled.
Xavier felt a rush of pride. “I really enjoy it here. The team is supportive, and Lin is a fantastic mentor. I wouldn’t be doing well without their help.”
Mark nodded. “We take pride in our team culture. But remember, your success isn’t just due to others. Lin has been impressed with your work and made a suggestion I want to discuss today.”
Xavier's heart raced. “What suggestion?”
“Lin recommended you as her replacement when she moves to a different team next quarter. How do you feel about stepping up to lead your current team?”
Xavier was taken aback. “I can’t accept that. There are others who’ve been here longer who deserve this opportunity.”
Mark laughed, catching Xavier off guard. “Lin anticipated you’d say that. She knows you well and wanted to see if you would deflect the offer.”
“After assessing your performance and hearing Lin’s feedback, I believe you are the right fit for the role. But there’s something I need to emphasize: you are not an imposter.”
Xavier's mind raced. “Is it that obvious?”
“Let me demonstrate. I’ll ask you three questions, and I want you to respond honestly and quickly.”
“Okay,” Xavier replied, bracing himself.
“Who assisted Stacy with her two most successful marketing campaigns?” Mark inquired.
“I did,” Xavier answered, but he felt a wave of self-doubt wash over him.
“Who helped Jon correct his sales page when he was targeting the wrong audience?”
“I did,” he repeated, feeling uneasy about taking credit.
“Name one strategy we could implement to address the recent iOS update that complicates audience targeting on Facebook.”
“You could create an engagement campaign for everyone on Facebook, then use storytelling for a retargeting campaign to connect with those who interacted with our ads as the initial step in the sales funnel.”
“Interesting. I asked Peter the same question, and he mentioned he often consults you for strategy before launching any ad campaigns.”
Xavier acknowledged that he did enjoy discussing marketing strategies with others.
Mark continued, “Here’s a technique I use when I feel like an imposter. I test my knowledge by asking myself questions to reaffirm what I know. This process reinforces that I deserve my position and that my achievements aren’t merely luck.”
“You’ve downplayed your contributions and even hesitated to accept a leadership role because you feel unworthy. But your swift and accurate answers show that you do deserve it.”
Xavier felt a glimmer of hope. “I’m starting to see things differently, but I lack experience in leading a team. That uncertainty holds me back.”
“I believe in you, Xavier. Here’s a book that helped me discover my leadership style. Work closely with Lin to learn her role, and feel free to reach out to me whenever you need guidance. My door is always open.”
“Thank you, Mark. I genuinely appreciate it,” Xavier responded, feeling a mix of gratitude and newfound confidence.
“Don’t thank me. I’m simply recognizing the best candidate for the role, and that’s you.”
Author’s note: If you connect with this narrative, please follow, clap, and comment on my posts. I’ll always return the favor. 😊
Chapter 2: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
In the video "You're Not an Imposter. You're Actually Pretty Amazing," the speaker discusses the common feelings of self-doubt and offers strategies to combat those thoughts.
The video "You're NOT a FRAUD: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome" provides insight into recognizing your worth and embracing your achievements while dealing with imposter syndrome.