Chapter 1: The Weight of Choices

As we navigate through life, we constantly encounter a multitude of choices that shape our destinies.

This leads to a contemplation about decision fatigue, where the act of choosing can become overwhelming. But we must remember: if we fail to design our own life path, someone else will.

While sitting at Bozeman Yellowstone International Airport, waiting for my flight home, I find myself reflecting: What am I truly experiencing at this moment? Is it a product of my decisions, or am I merely following someone else's lead? My mind races with various possibilities, but perhaps this is not the most pressing question. In today’s world, the choices made by others often feel just as unavoidable as those we impose on ourselves. While injustices should not be ignored, I worry about dwelling too long on trivial matters, such as my son accidentally spilling his milk.

Instead, I recall a thought-provoking discussion regarding the connection between our current self and our future self. Professor Hal Hershfield has conducted numerous studies on how our brains perceive and interact with the concept of our future selves.

His findings indicate that the same brain region used to understand a stranger is also employed when we think about our future selves, while a different area handles our current identity. Admittedly, I find it challenging to empathize with or care for strangers, which may lead me to neglect the person I have yet to become.

This realization drives me to show more consideration not only towards others but, more importantly, towards my future self. Am I working, saving, and resting in ways that honor this stranger I will eventually become? As I focus on the present—distracted by joys, challenges, and the relentless pace of life—am I guiding this stranger down a path filled with hardship or towards a serene retreat beneath a gentle autumn sun?

At this juncture, Professor Hadfield posed a thought-provoking challenge: to envision my future self and pose questions to this stranger.

His work centers on financial investments and human behavior, exploring how we can encourage individuals to save more effectively for retirement. However, he also emphasizes the importance of valuing both present and future satisfaction. While it’s motivating to save for retirement, we must consider whether the journey is fulfilling or fraught with bitterness. Will we look back on a life filled with regrets, or will we celebrate a vibrant path we wish we had never missed?

How can one live faithfully throughout life? This question resonates with me deeply. As I observe my child’s laughter and joy, I feel the mission that God has laid before me, and I affirm my understanding of the steps I must take. While my journey will not be devoid of distractions or hardships, a voice within tells me it is worth it—all of it. So, I will continue onward.

Chapter 2: Engaging with My Past and Future

In this video, the creator explores conversations with both their past and future selves, asking poignant questions that reveal insights about choices made and the paths ahead.