Reflecting on Gratitude and Connections with Strangers
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Chapter 1: The Magic of Serendipitous Encounters
There are countless instances where I've experienced extraordinary moments with strangers. Each encounter seems to unfold daily, making it impossible to choose just one. When it comes to expressing gratitude, I find it straightforward regarding family and friends. However, it becomes more complex when it involves someone I've just met.
This week, I connected with a woman during my regular group meeting. Hailing from Red Lake, she has familial ties that I recognize, yet she doesn't conform to the typical appearance associated with her heritage. Her father is from Red Lake, while her mother might be Caucasian—a scenario that isn’t uncommon.
She attended not as a participant but as a consultant, ensuring the anonymity of others was maintained. Interestingly, my own children don’t present as Native American, despite their mixed heritage, suggesting that socialization can shape identity more than visible traits.
What made this encounter particularly special? We engaged in a meaningful conversation, during which I expressed my search for someone to succeed me in my role. She currently manages two groups each week; adding a third seemed like a natural progression.
As a consultant, her focus is solely on her current responsibilities, but I believe we can navigate the necessary discussions together. I shared that I had been searching for a replacement for a couple of years, and to my surprise, she expressed her interest. She has been eager to pursue training with White Bison, although it’s not a requirement for this role.
I also mentioned my thoughts about needing a raise since the compensation isn't very substantial. She encouraged me to pursue that avenue and asked me to keep her in mind for the position. This was the first time someone appeared genuinely enthusiastic about the opportunity, and her existing familiarity with the guests, along with her background in substance abuse and mental health, made her a promising candidate.
Section 1.1: Gracious Interactions in Everyday Life
This week also brought another uplifting experience. While utilizing a cart in grocery stores like Walmart and Target, I consistently encounter kindness from others. Whenever someone notices me reaching for an item on a high shelf, they instinctively offer assistance.
I often clarify that I can walk but find it challenging to navigate large stores without becoming breathless. Nevertheless, their willingness to help remains unwavering. Did I mention that I engage with everyone around me? Whether they respond or not, I make it a point to smile and converse, which likely contributes to the kindness I receive.
Recently, I had an enlightening conversation with a young Native American man working at the checkout. He shared his thoughts on the pandemic's effects on education, admitting that he and many of his peers had not participated in online classes during school closures.
As a Native American woman, education has been pivotal in my life. My goal has been to achieve comfort—not wealth—and to provide assistance to family and friends in need. I’ve been fortunate enough to fulfill that aspiration.
As I loaded my groceries into my cart, he was right there, offering to help. He parked the riding cart for me and assisted me to my vehicle. I wondered if my truck, a symbol of my changing life, might inspire him. Perhaps this interaction could shift his perspective on the importance of education—a score for both of us!